|Bi girls tend to appreciate pretty,|
androgynous guys and girls
Bi Girls Are More Open Minded
Ok, this one is a generalization but it seriously holds up with all the bi girls I have dated. Bi girls are more open minded kind of by definition: they are simply wired to be open to more possibilities. And this specifically applies to polyamory. The number of females into polyamory that are bisexual is very high and there is a very strong correlation between bisexuality in females and polyamory (see my other blog posts which I am too lazy to find and link too but I have covered all the stats in the past)...and since I am poly...making sure she is bi is an excellent screener.
|I included the guy in this pic 'cause...both sexes|
gotta be represented, right?
Actually, this correlation has proven to be extremely useful even with girls who are not poly because some have just not realized that they were poly. And bi girls also are able to fully grok the whole poly concept without resisting it like mad -- even if they themselves are not polyamorous.
You Share Common Interests
I have noticed that straight girls tend to be threatened by the presence of other attractive females -- and they go on guard and become quarrelsome and jealous about your attentions. Bi girls, however, are usually down with a pleasant surrounding of hot females because they share your interest and fascination in the female form.
|I suspect everyone in this photo is bi|
Bi Girls Can Teach You About Women (and Men)
Bi girls actively dating other women and sharing their experiences with you is like taking a Ph.D in female sexuality -- if you pay close attention you can learn a massive amount. They can share with you the hot things that make them melt, sexy text messages...and also the fails and what to avoid. This is doubly true for boys. Boys and girls have totally, inherently different styles and roles in the whole dating world. Sure, Dom/mes and subs behave totally differently --but so do male subs vs female subs and Female Dommes definitely do shit that a male Dom would never do. ;)
A good bi girl will also share with you the guy stories of what really works (eg. taking her on a date where he took her up in a plan and flew her over her house) and what failed (and most importantly, WHY it failed.) A good example of a fail that is repeated all over the place is the oddly erotic comment out of nowhere. For example:
Him: Hey I was just wondering what you are doing right now
Her (thinking that was a bit lame but whatever); I just got home from work and I'm trying to unwind while getting dinner together.
Him: My cock is hard. Wanna see a pic?
God, even if she did, she doesn't anymore. *shakes head*
But then she can explain to you why this is so not what she was looking for and you can be her friend and sympathetic ear. Hmmm...I guess this is a bit more 'why I like poly girls' as if you are in a monogamous relationship...the above is probably pretty distressing to you, maybe? Anyway, it's a good way to bond and share experiences and really get to know her.
Bi Girls Will ALWAYS Have a 3-Some with You and LOVE it When You Assume That
Actually...no. Please read the above bolded statement with an epic amount of sarcasm. Never, ever assume a 3-some, ever. And if a girl mentions she is bi and you immediately bring up a 3-some possibility, you are making her regret admitting that to you while simultaneously she is searching for the fastest way to depart your company. (Of course, if you are ridiculously good looking, your gf is present and also ridiculously hot -- that may be an exception to the rule but generally you have just handed her a business card that says, 'Giant Douch-bag') It has to be the biggest pet peeve of any bi girl and immediately mentioning a threesome is like shining a massive spotlight on your own sexual inexperience.
Bi Girls Need Love
Truthfully, if you can love and fully accept a bisexual girl for being a normal person who happen to
|Honestly, it hurts me that you felt you needed to hide|
this part of yourself from me. Not cool. Not cool at all.
have broader and better taste than most...you just making her feel accepted will make all the difference. I recently came across an article by Gregory Herek called Heterosexual Attitudes Towards Bisexual Men and Women in the United States and he states:
feeling thermometers were lower (less favorable) for bisexual men and bisexual women than for all other groups assessed—including religious, racial, ethnic, and political groups—except injecting drug users. More negative attitudes toward bisexuals were associated with higher age, less education, lower annual income, residence in the South and rural areas, higher religiosity, political conservatism, traditional values concerning gender and sexual behavior, authoritarianism, and lack of contact with gay men or lesbians. White heterosexual women expressed significantly more favorable attitudes than other women and all men. A gender difference was observed in attitudes toward bisexuals and homosexuals: Heterosexual women rated bisexuals significantly less favorably than they rated homosexuals, regardless of gender.
And girls know this. So first off, her admitting that she is bi is a usually a big step that shows a certain degree of trust. But she is probably really concerned about how you will react to this revelation...which considering (some) people rate it just above injection drug use...she's probably shitting herself. So if you can warmly accept that aspect of her without any judgement, that's going to put you in her good books.
But here's the thing, I genuinely really prefer bi girls as straight girls just don't make all the much sense to me. (Sure, the first couple girls I dated were straight but I was young and didn't know any better then.) I wouldn't consider seriously dating any girl who was unable to look at an attractive, confident person and think, yeah, that person is so cool and great that I would sleep with them.
What Doesn't Count As a Bi Girl
Girls fake-grinding with each other at bars to get guys attention -- pretending they are bi so the frat
boys go nuts. Fuck me I hate that. It's so gross and unappealing. If you are just willing do something for show...that's bullshit. It's sort of like bad porn actresses doing girl on girl scenes and it is painfully obvious that the girls don't like each other. Don't fuck people you are not attracted to! It's not rocket science. But straight girls doing girl on girl porn lacks all heat and looks...unfortunate. Of course, girls who are genuinely hot for each other (or any couple genuinely into each other!) is ideal and what I want to see. I don't ever want to see someone having sex 'because they are getting paid' as that is the opposite of an aphrodisiac.